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Surviving a Narcissist: Tips and Tricks for Keeping Your Sanity and Setting Boundaries

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Narcissist Man Traits …

Why did the narcissist take a selfie at the gym? Because they wanted to flex their muscles and their ego at the same time! It's no secret that narcissists love to bask in their own glory and seek validation from others, but let's hope they don't pull a muscle from all that self-admiration. If you want to change a narcissist’s behavior check out the Pussy Whip 2 meditations!

Hey girlfriends, have you ever dealt with a narcissist? It's a tough and emotionally draining experience. Narcissists have this grandiose sense of self-importance, a need for constant admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. And let's not forget how manipulative and controlling they can be! But don't worry, in this blog post, we're going to explore some ways to deal with a narcissist and keep your emotional well-being in check.

First things first, it's crucial to recognize the signs of narcissistic behavior. When they don't get what they want, they might become defensive or even angry. And to get what they want, they might manipulate and control others. They don't care about other people's feelings or needs, only their own.

That said, one of the best things you can do is to set clear boundaries. Let the narcissist know what you're comfortable with and what's not okay. Be firm and assertive when doing so, and don't let them push you into something you don't want to do. And once you've established those boundaries, stick to them!

Another important thing to remember is to prioritize your own well-being. Dealing with a narcissist can be incredibly draining, so make sure you're taking care of yourself. That might mean going for a run, meditating, or hanging out with people who lift you up. Don't let the narcissist control your emotions or make you feel guilty for taking care of yourself.

Now, here's the thing - narcissists thrive on drama and conflict. So, it's best to avoid getting into arguments or power struggles with them. If you do find yourself in a disagreement, stay calm and stick to the facts. Don't let the narcissist twist the conversation to fit their own agenda.

In summary, dealing with a narcissist can be tough. But by recognizing their behavior, setting clear boundaries, prioritizing your own well-being, and avoiding arguments, you can protect yourself and maintain your emotional health. Remember, if you need professional support, there's no shame in seeking it out. You got this!

HOW TO TELL IF A GUY IS A NARCISSIST

  1. The person who takes so many selfies, they start to think they're related to Kim Kardashian.

  2. He can turn any conversation into a story about themselves, even if it's completely unrelated to the topic.

  3. The guy is so obsessed with their appearance that they spend more time in front of the mirror than a teenage girl.

  4. He thinks he’s the smartest, most talented, and most attractive person in the room -- and isn't afraid to tell you so.

  5. They think they're always right, even when they're clearly wrong. It's like arguing with a brick wall, only less fun.

 

TRUE STORY

Meet Alex — the textbook narcissist. With his good looks, charm, and high opinion of himself, Alex had always been a magnet for attention. His girlfriend Emily was no exception. She found him incredibly attractive and exciting, but his constant self-centeredness was starting to take a toll on their relationship.

Alex's conversations mostly revolved around him and his accomplishments. He barely showed any interest in Emily's life or feelings. He criticized her appearance and even her intelligence, leaving her feeling small and insecure. Emily felt like she was walking on eggshells around him, always careful not to upset him.

One day, Emily had enough. She confronted Alex about his dismissive behavior and told him how she felt. But Alex being Alex, he became defensive and dismissive. He blamed Emily for being too sensitive and couldn't understand why she couldn't see how amazing he was.

Emily realized that she deserved better and decided to end the relationship, leaving Alex in shock. He couldn't believe that someone as amazing as him could be dumped by someone like her. He even said that to her face!

But after a few months of being alone, Alex started to realize that his narcissistic behavior had pushed Emily away. He knew that he needed to work on himself and change his ways if he ever wanted to have a healthy relationship. He sought therapy to work on his issues, not for Emily, but for himself.

Alex regretted losing Emily and realized that she was, in his words, the “love of his life”. He begged for her forgiveness and after a lot of effort, they reconnected and started dating again. This time around, Alex was a changed man. He learned to be more empathetic and considerate of Emily's feelings, and he let her be the center of attention occasionally. Though he still had his moments of self-absorption, he was committed to being a better partner and making the relationship work.

The moral of the story? Dealing with a narcissist can be tough, but it's important to set clear boundaries and prioritize your emotional well-being. Emily did just that and it turned out to be the best thing for Alex as well. After all, even a textbook narcissist can change with a little bit of self-reflection, effort and a few “secret” techniques thrown in. ;-)

The Power of First Impressions: Love at First Sight

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LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT CAN HAPPEN

Sometimes you just know it’s love at first sight. These tips can help you trigger love from the other person.

Can you really make someone fall in love with you at first sight?  In a way, yes.  You can create a feeling of love, lust and a "head over heels" feeling when you first meet someone. You can give them the feeling of butterflies and make their heart pitter patter!

How?  There are two ways to do it and they can be used on a stranger or on your mate to ignite passion and the feeling of "falling in love" all over again.

  1.  First of all, look into the person's eyes.  Not casually looking at them or glancing around the room like you're paying attention to them part of the time.  But really, really look into their eyes as if you can see deep into their soul.  This creates a feeling of excitement and expectation in the person you are looking at.  They actually feel a feeling that is akin to love.  As if they have known you forever....or want to know you forever!  It gives them butterflies and anticipation of what's to come!  An excitement that will stay in their memory banks forever.

  2. Next, as you are gazing into their eyes and hanging onto every word send them thoughts that will bond them to you and want to know you like they have never wanted to know anyone before.  How do you do that?  While paying attention ONLY to their eyes (not nose, mouth, forehead, etc) think the thought that you want them to think and feel the feelings you want them to feel.  For instance, you want them to want you sexually?  Think the thought "you desire me" and feel the emotion of being desired.  You want them to think you are the hottest person alive?  Think the thought "you love the way I look" and feel the emotion of them admiring your appearance.  Have an adversary?  When you speak to them think the thought "you like me" and change your attitude about their feelings toward you to reflect the thought.  Watch your life change!  "Thoughts are things and they are powerful!"

I teach women all over the world to change their mate's actions, thoughts and feelings towards them with my books.  I also have meditations that will empower you and assist you in getting the man you want AND make your self-esteem skyrocket.

Relationship Mistakes Women Make

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GETTING SOMEONE TO CHANGE

Trying to change someone is like trying to teach a cat to do tricks - it's probably not going to happen, and you're just going to end up frustrated and covered in scratches. Focus on accepting people for who they are and finding common ground where you can coexist peacefully - kind of like roommates who don't always agree but still manage to split the rent and not kill each other.

You know the saying "all is fair in love and war" but it seems to me, after 25 years of counseling women, that women can be their own worse enemy when it comes to relationships.  Do you see yourself in the following examples?

  • Your mate says "you're too needy" and rather than back off and prove that you are an independent woman you stalk him which further alienates him.

  • Your ex states that he "hates drama" so you throw a temper tantrum when he blocks you from social media and his phone after a nasty breakup.

  • He says "I want to date other women" and you make the excuse that he loves you too much and is afraid of commitment so he gets a free pass while you sit at home alone and miserable.

  • He tells you that he cares for you as a "friend with benefits" woman and, although you want an engagement ring, you agree to be that for him thinking you can change his mind in time.

  • He may be honest and upfront by stating that "he never wants to get married" but you are positive that sex will be so awesome he will change his mind so you stay in a relationship for years and "waste your pretty" on him rather than find a man who is available.

  • When he tells you all the things that are wrong with you (or the relationship) you try convincing him that you are "the perfect woman for him" and he could never find anyone who would love him more.

Women love to make over things so part of the problem is the challenge of getting someone to change.  How many of your friends (or even yourself) have said "with a different hairstyle, clothes, personality, money, sexual appeal, etc." he COULD BE the perfect mate.  He isn't at the moment but if he changes he has potential!

When a man states emphatically that the relationship is not going anywhere I beg you to listen to him.  In the off-chance that he does change his mind he will hunt you down and crawl on his hands and knees to propose to you.  But, don't hold your breath.  Why?  One big reason is that men do not respect women and hold them in high regard if they do not have self-esteem.

Let's be truthful, if you have self-esteem you will not allow a man to treat you disrespectfully and/or take up your precious time to be a play toy.  You are honest and upfront and have no hidden agenda.  If you desire a monogamous relationship you won't settle for less.  If you desire marriage you don't pretend to be a free spirit who never wants to be tied down.  In other words, you are the person you are and you are proud of it!  He will always know what your standards are and that you will never be a doormat for him, or anyone else.