Don’t be the fall backk girl
Being a backup person is like being the understudy in a Broadway show - you're always ready to jump in if the main actor gets sick, but you're also acutely aware that you're not the star of the show.
"FALL BACK GIRL"
You dated someone for two months before breaking up and then you chase him for the next six months or more;
After two dates you're already telling him you love him and began mentally planning the wedding;
None of your friends want to be around you because all you talk about is your current love (which seems to change regularly);
You're there for him 24/7 regardless of how little interest he shows;
You wait for an invitation all week and find yourself alone on weekends because he hasn't made plans with you;
You initiate contact and he responds when he wants OR with vague messages;
When he asks what you would like to do you tell him "whatever you would like" rather than express any desire whatsoever;
You make excuses for his poor treatment of you;
You tell others (and believe) that he loves you too much and that's why he doesn't contact you;
You explain his lack of commitment is because he is afraid of being hurt rather than admit it is because "he isn't that into you";
You believe he is the "love of your life" when he is done little or nothing to show love to you;
If you break up he comes back and you welcome him home as his "fall back" girl until he leaves again;
You fear telling him no because you're afraid he will leave and never come back;You treat him like a king while your self-confidence has been destroyed.
"GIRL OF HIS DREAMS"
You have no problem expressing yourself and your desires;
You know you're a catch and you deserve to be treated with love, kindness and respect;
You would never allow yourself to be waiting around to see if someone is going to call because you have a life to live and you live it to THE fullest;
If someone says "I need time apart" you view it as an opportunity to meet new people;
You deserve love and commitment and you don't settle for less;
If your mate says he wants a relationship break you let him go knowing that he will be back;
You don't need to pressure a man because they WANT to be with you and admire your strength, self-esteem and determination;
Men love to be around you because you are not clingy and they don't feel smothered;
You believe in a "win/win" way to resolve issues and don't rehash the same argument over and over again;
You don't lose your confidence because he seems noncommittal and don't place all your worth on the opinion of one man (or woman);
You are too busy living your wonderful life to creep on someone's social media;
It takes a while to win your heart because you view yourself with high regard and as a "prize" and don't give away your affection to just anyone;
You desire to be in a relationship that's healthy and would not settle for one that isn't;
You let no man control you BUT you are willing to be an equal partner;
Not just anyone can pass your relationship criteria but when they do they appreciate your loyalty, love and devotion
Only you can decide which one you are AND what you would choose to be! I write relationship books for women who desire to be empowered and free from issues that have plagued them in the past.