What is a love bomber?
Love bombers are like someone trying to win a marathon by sprinting the first mile - sure, they might be ahead for a little while, but eventually, they'll burn out and fall behind. Check out the meditations on Pussy Whip 2 for a love bomber meditation that is literally THE BOMB!
Hey there, my sisters! Let’s talk about love bombers. It's a term that's been thrown around a lot lately, but what exactly does it mean? Let's take a closer look.
A love bomber is someone who showers you with love and attention at the beginning of a relationship. They may seem too good to be true, and that's because they usually are. Love bombers often use excessive flattery and gifts to manipulate and control their partner.
It's important to understand that a love bomber is not the same as someone who is genuinely interested in you and wants to make you happy. Love bombers are often trying to fulfill their own needs and desires, rather than building a genuine connection with their partner.
So, how do you know if you're dealing with a love bomber? Here are some signs to look out for:
They move very quickly in the relationship, often professing their love within a very short amount of time.
They shower you with gifts and excessive attention, making you feel like the center of their universe.
They may use flattery to manipulate you, telling you what they think you want to hear in order to gain your trust and affection.
They may become jealous or possessive early on in the relationship, making you feel like you can't talk to or spend time with anyone else.
If you think you may be dealing with a love bomber, it's important to trust your instincts and take action to protect yourself. Here are some steps you can take:
Set boundaries early on in the relationship and stick to them.
Pay attention to any red flags and take them seriously.
Don't be afraid to walk away.
You deserve love and respect, and you have the power to create a healthy, happy relationship. Remember that healthy relationships are built on mutual respect, trust, and communication, and that you deserve to be with someone who treats you with kindness and respect. Be sure to check out the “Love Bomber” meditation. It’s the bomb! ;-)
TRUE STORY
This is the story of a client in her 40s who fell in love with a man who turned out to be a love bomber and broke her heart. She met him through a mutual friend and was immediately attracted to his charming personality and good looks. They went on dates, exchanged sweet messages, and talked for hours on end. It felt like they had a deep connection and were meant to be together.
But things started to change when he started to push for a commitment too soon. He would constantly text her, showering her with compliments, gifts, and grand gestures. She felt overwhelmed and thought it was too good to be true. Her intuition was right.
Soon after, she noticed that he would disappear for days or weeks without any explanation. He would then return with apologies, promises, and excuses. She tried to understand and forgive him, thinking that he was just going through a tough time. She wanted to be there for him and support him, but his behavior became more erratic and unpredictable.
He would suddenly turn cold and distant, blaming her for his problems and accusing her of not loving him enough. He would threaten to leave her, then come back begging for forgiveness. She felt like she was walking on eggshells, never knowing what to expect or how to please him.
She realized that he was not in love with her, but with the idea of being in love. He was a love bomber, someone who uses extreme displays of affection and attention to manipulate and control their partner. He was not interested in her as a person, but as a source of validation and admiration.
It was a painful lesson to learn, but she decided to break up with him and move on. She realized that love should not hurt or make you feel small. Love should be mutual, respectful, and supportive. She also realized that she deserved better and that she could love herself first before loving someone else.
She learned that love is not just about finding someone who makes you happy, but about being happy with yourself first. She realized that she was already complete and that she did not need anyone else to validate her worth. She was enough, just as she was.
She learned that love is not a one-time event, but a lifelong commitment to growth and compassion. She decided to love herself first, to nurture her passions and dreams, and to surround herself with people who uplifted her and accepted her for who she was. She learned that love is not just a feeling, but a choice to be kind, honest, and forgiving.
She contacted me and I suggested she try the Love Bomber and Pussy Whip techniques on this Romeo and he slowly began to change. She couldn’t believe that she had the power and ability through visualization to change someone so dramatically. The last time I spoke with her they were moving forward with an engagement and setting a wedding date. She had a higher self-esteem than ever because during the entire ordeal she worked on issues she had about feeling she didn’t deserve the life she wanted. I hope to be invited to her wedding but more importantly the message is “you are not a victim because YOU are in control of your life”.